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SETTING THE EXPECTATION and INTENTION

SETTING THE EXPECTATION and INTENTION

The purpose of my decision to incorporate blogs was and is to share any information, knowledge, or stories of all kinds that catch my attention and that I feel will benefit other people. I come across all sorts of fascinating or interesting information.

My curiosity is very broad, by the way, so not all blogs will be about business; some will interest you, some will not, some will apply to you, some will not; just skip those and scroll to the next one.
Sometimes, the information I share may be perplexing, confusing, frustrating, and so on. Yet, these blogs are designed to educate, inspire, uplift, make you think, open your mind, expand your awareness, add value, give pause, and so on.

The categories or topics will be across the board, anything I have learned from seminars, classes, books, stories, concepts, articles, videos, documentaries, movies, human journeys, human struggles, basically any kind of material I come across.

Two trees perspectives of different viewpoints

 

Broadening your viewpoint …

When you looked at the picture, were you able to see both images or just one at first? Most people can only see one image upon first glance, and the second can elude them. Our minds can distort what we see through our thoughts and beliefs. Taking off your blindfold is priceless.

The greatest gift a coach can give you is to: CHALLENGE YOUR BELIEFS, what you think you see, what you believe, as well as how you respond. More times than not, it is NOT what a coach can help or give you; it is what a coach can help you remove that is most valuable.

Keep in mind, PERCEPTION is always at play. How we see or perceive anything is a part of us and can alter how we Navigate Life, in combination with the consequences we face for the choices (consciously, subconsciously, or unconsciously) we make.

Awareness, open minded-ness, intentional thinking, being aware of what your internal dialogue is, is the key.

Most situations, circumstances have more than one viewpoint. Personally, I believe we should consider all the different viewpoints and information before arriving at a conclusion. Otherwise, we are NOT making a conscious decision, we are simply unconsciously reacting. Take control of yourself, your mind, look deeper into the information at hand, see the unseen, hear what is not being said, remember there is a difference between true and truth, and in many cases … actions speak louder than words.

No one questions when 1 + 1 is not equaling 2. We just know it is wrong. It is not adding up. However, when people say one thing, do another, there is something inside us that sends up a “red flag,” what that red flag means is different for each person. How we process it, what we do about it, how we handle it, how we react to it, the actions we take, whether those actions are conscious or unconscious, passive or directly, etc.

Today, most of us walk around very confused by what we see versus what we hear and the actions being taken. My goal, through these blogs, is to “maybe” bring some clarity to your world, give you AH-HA moments, put a smile on a face, possibly enlighten you and hopefully teach you something.

Until the next time. My warmest wishes

Iceberg representing conscious mind vs. subconscious mnd

CONSCIOUS MIND vs. SUBCONSCIOUS MIND and UNCONSCIOUS MIND

HIGHER SELF, CONSCIOUS MIND, SUBCONSCIOUS MIND, UNCONSCIOUS MIND

In this blog, I’d like to elaborate further on the different levels of the mind and the roles of each of these states.

HIGHER SELF

You can call this whatever you want, Spirit, True self, Awareness, Self-realization, Consciousness, whatever you choose. This “part” of us is personal, everyone sees this differently, so I’ll leave this to you to decide what this means to you.
It is where Love & Joy is.

CONSCIOUS MIND 

The Ego-ic state of mind, the imagined self, the pretend self
Responsible for: Logic, Reasoning, Analytical, Thinker
This is also where reputation, achievement, physical appearance matters.

  • Takes issue with everything
  • Perceives problems
  • The thinking mind – the monkey mind
  • Inability to see the whole picture
  • Judges, criticizes, finds fault in everything
  • Limited perspective
  • The things you are currently aware of / or thinking about
  • Takes in information
  • Your free will lies here
  • Aware of your five senses, how you experience the world
  • What’s good or bad, right or wrong, accepts and rejects ideas
  • Where you learn new things
  • Actions, Will power, Decisions, Plans, Goals, Analysis, Behavior

SUBCONSCIOUS MIND 

Very Complex, Runs the show, Hard to change
Responsible for: Memories, Habits, and behaviors

  • Doesn’t discriminate
  • Excepts everything
  • Receives from the conscious mind
  • Stores all beliefs, memories, personality traits
  • Preserves the body
  • Generates habits
  • This is where core beliefs are
  • Stores and retrieves data – data bank
  • Previous experiences
  • Stores memories
  • Represses memories
  • Skillsets
  • Basically, everything you have ever seen, done, or experienced

Emotions, Values, Personal Beliefs, Fears, Imagination, Habits, Projections, Self-Image / Identity, All memories, Resist Change, Wants to Serve, Culture Beliefs, Does not Judge

THE UNCONSCIOUS MIND

Anything deeply rooted.
We are not aware at this level. Trauma, Shame & Guilt, Violence, Secrets

INFORMATIVE – IMPORTANT MISCELLANEOUS INFORMATION

  • The mind tends to automatically go to the WORSE CASE SCENARIO
  • The mind is always in the past or the future, staying present is tough for most people
  • Most people hang onto the past
  • Most people tend to focus on what they DON’T want more than what they do want.
  • Most people tend to arrive at a conclusion when they do not have all the information.
  • Most people are so afraid of losing what they do not want or enjoy
  • One single belief can stand in the way of what you truly want in life
  • Our personality is constantly changing because we spend most of our lives thinking, feeling, relating, and perceiving the behavior of our “illusionary” self
  • Rarely does the voice in our heads stop, it can be an endless chatter of noise

Until the next time. My warmest wishes

Man on a mountain looking at the horizon making choices and decision

CHOICES AND DECISIONS

CHOICES and DECISIONS

In a world of “I want it YESTERDAY,” instant satisfaction, so many choices, so many different directions, so many options, so many opinions, it can be tough keeping up. Oh, yea, I forgot to mention, all those choices, answers, responses, people want those RIGHT NOW! Then when you factor in the research that says we make approximately 35,000 decisions a DAY. It is no wonder that society as a whole we are stressed out.

There are three areas of stress: Physical, Emotional, and Chemical. When we reach our tolerance level of stress, we normally react one of three ways: We BURN out, we BAIL out, or we BLOW up.

With that number of decisions, how important are the choices we are making every minute of every day to the QUALITY of life we are living?

In this blog, I will be using “CHOICES” and “DECISIONS” interchangeably.

Keep in mind, Behavior is the highest form of communication. So what is our behavior saying about us?

What exactly is a “CHOICE”?

Sounds like an easy enough question and answer, but is it? Are we really making decisions and choosing? Or are we just going with whatever, following the path of least resistance because it is easy? Are we just reacting instead of choosing? Are we NOT making a decision because we are so maxed out, plates are too full, too many things pulling us in too many directions, so we just say, I don’t care.

A lot to consider. Let me simplify this, there are only two ways we handle decisions:

We RESPOND OR WE REACT

Here are seven ways we create ineffective choices:

  1. Choice by limitation: choosing only what seems possible or reasonable
  2. Choice by indirectness: choosing the process instead of the result
  3. Choice by elimination: eliminating all other possibilities so that only one remains
  4. Choice by default: the choice not to make a choice so that whatever results happen seem to occur without choice – all that is left again
  5. Conditional choice: imposing preconditions on choices
  6. Choice by reaction: choices designed to overcome a conflict
  7. Choice by consensus: choosing by finding out what everyone is willing to recommend and following the results of that poll.

CHOICES AND DECISIONS become clearer when you raise your CONSCIOUSNESS

Until the next time. My warmest wishes

A head with neurons triggering emotions

SCIENCE and NEUROSCIENCE

Science and Neuroscience

Science and Neuroscience tell us that we have on average 12,000 – 60,000 thoughts a day, of those thoughts, approximately 80% are negative thoughts, of those 80% negative thoughts, 90-95% of those are HABITUAL from the day before. Translation … a lot of negative, repetitive thoughts that do not serve us, and get in our way!

It also tells us, that we are 99.99999% empty space, energy, frequency filled with information, and only .00001% matter.

And that the Conscious mind makes up less than 10% of our thoughts, leaving the Subconscious / Unconscious mind with the remaining 90% of our thoughts. Or non-thought, just running on autopilot.
Neuroscience goes on to say that every thought we think releases a chemical into our bodies, now there is a lot more that actually happens here, but the “just” of it is … every thought we think produces a chemical that gets released into the body.

We also know that every thought produces a feeling, those feelings produce more of the same thoughts.

Bringing that information forward, if negative thoughts produce negative chemicals, and 80% of our thoughts are negative, we are pumping a lot of negative chemicals into our systems daily. After a period of thinking the same thoughts over and over, we have taught our bodies how to feel, now the body is addicted to the chemical produced from our thoughts.
We are simply re-cycling our thoughts according to the beliefs we have, it is like those re-cycled thoughts hold us in this pattern of torture.

Let’s say you have a reoccurring thought for days, months, even years, that thought has also created a neuro pathway in the brain. Strengthening that thought, every time you think it.

Now I am not a scientist, and if you would like to understand this more, do some research. For the purpose of this blog, just a basic understanding of what happens in our brains with every thought is enough to get my point across.

Negative Thoughts Create Stress

Stress is said to be the leading cause of disease in the body, wouldn’t it stand to reason if the majority of our thoughts are negative and thoughts produce chemicals that get released in the body, that WE are causing ourselves more issues than need be?

We are training our bodies how to feel/react based on the way we think and the chemicals we are producing – once the body has gotten used to the constant supply of negative thinking chemicals, it then becomes dependent on those chemicals and now starts to tell the brain, I want more of those chemicals because it is now dependent on them. Then we get into a state of a constant cycle that keeps us stuck in an endless loop of thinking/feeling and feeling/thinking.

Information like this is valuable when it comes to our day-to-day lives. The always comes when you “wake up” and realize the state you are in. Most people go through life sleepwalking, or as I sometimes refer to it with clients, comfortably numb, honestly though, there really is nothing comfortable about being numb, you aren’t really alive and living, you’re simply going through the motion, existing.

Applying this information to your day-to-day lives. Become aware of what you are thinking, pay attention, allowing yourself to go into a state of “auto-pilot is NOT serving you.

Most people today are living every day in states of stress, anger, aggression, hatred, judgment, fear, pain, as well as suffering from hopelessness.

Awareness is seeing, hearing, sensing without judgment.

Until the next time. My warmest wishes

Woman made of smaller images of someone navigating life

What Makes Us, Us?

What Makes Us, Us?

What makes the “person” we think we are?

No one can really say or tell you how many different parts and aspects a person has, what we can do, is get a starting point, a frame of reference.

Love this section! Let’s start with some basics. Just keep in mind that every part and aspect is
“To a DEGREE”, very few parts or aspects are 100% of us all the time at one moment.

We have: (For reference purposes)

  • an aspect of us that plays PEACEMAKER, an aspect that occasionally invites CONFLICT
  • an aspect of us that is a PERFECTIONIST, an aspect that occasionally will be demanding, angry
  • an aspect that wants to NURTURE, an aspect that will MANIPULATE
  • an aspect that wants to ACHIEVE, an aspect that will be DECEITFUL
  • an aspect that wants INDIVIDUALITY, an aspect that will be ENVIOUS
  • an aspect of us that THINKS & OBSERVES, an
  • aspect of us that is STINGY
  • an aspect of us that is LOYALIST, an aspect that is SKEPTICAL, FEARFUL
  • an aspect that just wants to have FUN and be ADVENTUROUS, an aspect that becomes OVER-INDULGENT
  • an aspect of us that CHALLENGES things – people – situations, an aspect of us that is ARROGANT

We also have different parts within ourselves, those include:

  • Memory barriers
  • Mindset barriers
  • Self-imposed limitations
  • Negative beliefs
  • Broken agreements
  • Unfinished communications
  • Unaligned intentions
  • Internal conflicts
  • Judgments
  • Resentments
  • Entire belief systems
  • Storylines
  • Routines
  • A protector-controller
  • Disorganized parts
  • Associative & Dissociative

We have internal dialogue (self-sabotaging statements) that says:

  • I am not enough
  • I am not worthy
  • I am not capable
  • I am not perfect
  • I am insignificant
  • I do not belong

We also have:

  • Assumptions
  • Limiting beliefs
  • Trust issues
  • Wounded parts
  • Habitual habits
  • Values

Emotions:

  • Blame, shame, fear, anxiety, stress, happy, sad, this list goes on and on.

Put all that in ONE person, there is your personality. There is more to consider, for now, this is plenty to digest.

This is also we start to develop our IDENTITY. Other things that make up our identity can be where we live, who we associate with, what we drive, the clothes we wear, what we do, sports we play, and other objects.

Until the next time. My warmest wishes